For many Millennials, our first memory of Valentine’s Day is probably picking out paper cards to give to everyone in our second grade class. Back then, everyone had a Valentine (or 25). But as an adult, Feb. 14 can be more complicated. Nontheless, there’s no reason why you can’t define your ownalternative Valentine’s Day and that extends to the plus size lingerie you might want to wear in the bedroom come V-Day night.
I’ve never been one to do anything special when it comes to lingerie on Valentine’s Day, but as I began researching the best bra brands out there, I couldn’t help but notice how much lingerie had really evolved in plus sizes since I last looked. I saw everything from comfy oversized tees and soft robes to vinyl corsets and caged bras.
All of the lingerie and loungewear that I was seeing got me thinking about Valentine’s Day. After all, it’s a day when people of all kinds are encouraged to celebrate love — whether that be for someone special in their lives, themselves, or both.
I then started contemplating how that celebration really doesn’t have to look any one way; and that a lot of the reason why people dislike Valentine’s Day might be because they get caught up in what they think it’s supposed to be. So I wanted to think about all of the different kinds of Valentine’s Days you can have and offer some plus size solutions for what to wear (and maybe even take off) in the bedroom.
1. When You Want To Serve Glamour & Drama
Because I have a personal flair for the dramatic, I decided to start big with this over-the-top dressing gown. I don’t think there’s anything more glamorous out there. While it doesn’t explicitly come in plus sizes, the brand does make them in custom measurements. So treat yourself.
2. When You Want Sexy Lingerie But Hate Underwires
What attracted me to this red and black lace set was the fact that it looks really comfortable. The halter-style top doesn’t feature any underwire, but the red lace and black accents make it incredibly sexy.
3. When You Like Wearing Flowers More Than Receiving Them
The floral print on this Curvy Couture bra and panty set is so detailed. The way that it pairs with the lavender of the set is pretty great, too. Skip the flowers on Valentine’s Day and be your own bouquet.
4. When Your Loungewear Speaks For Itself
Remember that episode of Sex And The Cityin which Miranda ate an entire giant cookie pizza because it said “I Love You” on it? It’s not always easy to say “I love you,” so take the pressure off yourself this Valentine’s Day and just wear this instead.
5. You Want To Keep It Cute & Predictable
There’s nothing wrong with wearing red, sexy lingerie on Valentine’s Day and this bustier with lace, ruffle, and boning detail is a really great way to achieve that traditional V-Day look with a modern spin.
6. When You Want Gender Neutral Comfort
I discovered TomboyX when researching the best underwear brands and I love that its pieces are made from a high-quality stretch cotton that keeps them both snug and comfy. Netflix and actual chill, anyone?
7. When You’re The Ringleader
As soon as I found this corset, I couldn’t get Britney Spears’ “Circus” out of my head, and I thought that the whole concept could make for an interesting Valentine’s Day for someone who likes to call the shots.
8. When You Want Your Lingerie Sustainable
Origami Customs makes handmade custom bodysuits and lingerie up to a size 5XL and this bodysuit is made from a soft bamboo cotton that is natural and chemical-free.
9. When You Want To Look ’90s Music Video Ready
Silk and satin pajamas will always hold a special place in my heart thanks to ’90s music videos like TLC’s “Creep.” Why not put on some slow jams and relive some of the songs you had no idea were actually about sex when they came out?
10. When You Wear The Bow
If you love presents and gifts, feel free to express that love through lingerie and wrap yourself up in this sexy number, complete with a perfectly-placed bow.
11. When Only Something Super Soft Will Do
Whether you are celebrating Valentine’s Day with some self love pampering or showing up at bae’s doorstep, this gown has a multitude of uses and is super soft on top of all of that.
12. When You Want Part Leather Bodysuit & Part Body Harness
I’m all for leather and body harnesses in fashion and lingerie, so the combination of those two elements is really great to me.
13. When You’re More Lace Than Leather
I am obsessed with Chubby Cartwheels’ lace bodysuits that designer Shawna showcases on visibly plus size models. This makes a great day-to-night look, too.
14. When You Wish V-Day Was A Summer Holiday
There’s a lot of really cute lingerie out there that doesn’t fall into the “Dark Romance” territory, so why not wear something that actually looks like a romper you might don in the summer?
15. When You Know There’s Nothing Wrong With Being Single
If you’re single this Valentine’s Day, you’re probably smart enough to know that being single isn’t a bad thing and definitely no reflection of your worth. Celebrate your self love with this comfy tee and buy yourself some chocolates, girl.
There’s no requirement for what plus size babes should wear on Valentine’s Day. If you want to be sexy, do it. If you want to be comfy, go for it. And if you want to both, you can make that work, too. Just show yourself some love and be true to you.
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